Are there methods that can help solve problems that must be dealt with? PREP introduces the 4-step problem solving method that provides structure to this challenge to help couples solve a difficult problem. In this video, you learn the model and watch Jeff and Karen as they put the model into pra...

Dr. Howard Markman introduces the Time Out skill to James and Ladios to help them exit the negative momentum of a conflict in a way that preserves the Emotional Safety of the relationship. Dr. Markman coaches the couple in effective ways to personalize the Time Out skill to their relationship.

Is each person equally contributing to the relationship? Let's see what happens when one person feels very let down by the other person's contribution to everyday life.

Each side of this relationship can justify why they do what they do. Now the question is: are there skills they can learn so they can communicate better to each other without minimizing the responses of either person?

Couples can often experience circular arguments— arguments that go round and round without finding any solutions. This is an example of a never-ending argument where, while the speakers are maintaining a good tone, the words are taking them nowhere.

Here's an example of two individuals who see the "facts" two different ways. This video shows how frustrating it can be for a couple to be looking at the same situation but seeing things so differently.

In this clip with James and Ladios, the Danger Sign of Escalation is evident as each partner one-ups the other through interruption and elevated voices. [Note: This recently filmed video features live couples, not actors.]

Christina and Tyler demonstrate the Danger Sign Withdrawal

James and Ladios demonstrate the Danger Sign Negative Interpretation

This clip provides an excellent example of one of the four Communication Danger Signs, Withdrawal. Their discussion-- about the way they communicate in times of frustration-- is echoed by Christina's body language.

In this clip, the danger sign of Escalation is evident as each partner one-ups the other through interruption and elevated voices. [Note: This recently filmed video features live couples, not actors.]

View a real couple displaying the Danger Sign called Invalidation. Invalidation is putting down the thoughts, opinions or character of the other. It can be subtle (eye rolling, not listening) or obvious In this case, the Invalidation is overt as Lee claims that "nothing you're doing is working" a...

The Danger Sign called Negative Interpretations is marked by unfairly negative assumptions being made by one or both partners in a discussion. [Note: These are live couples, not actors, recently updated.]

Witness what happens when one person in a relationship feels cornered by the other person's honest assessment of the facts. Even though they have the facts, not knowing how to talk about the truth does little to help the situation.

La Invalidación es una de las Señales de Peligro en la Comunicación. En este video la comunicación entre Juan y Dolores fracasa por el uso de las invalidaciones.

Los Conceptos Claves de PREP: Señales de Peligro en la Comunicación, La Invalidación, Seguridad Emocional